Navigating Your Road


Advanced prostate cancer is your disease, but it also affects everyone who loves and cares for you. Your loved ones experience prostate cancer in a very real way.

Your loved ones’ challenges may not show up on a lab chart or test result, but they are often equally important. Your diagnosis can leave them feeling helpless and confused. They, too, experience the treatments, the doctor visits, interrupted sleep, sadness, fear and grief.

“Would I live and who would I be? What would happen to us? She shared my loneliness, isolation and fear – often silently.”

- Alan W.

While some relationships remain unchanged, you and your loved ones may have to work to find the “new normal.” This means deciding what information you want to share and with whom, and how to best approach these conversations.

  • Take time to reflect: Your family, friends and colleagues care about you and will be open to supporting you on this journey, but you may wish to be upfront with them about what you are comfortable sharing.
  • Have a confidante: You may benefit from having people around whom you can trust with thoughts and concerns. Who is that person for you?
  • Ask for help: Asking for help may be difficult. But family and friends can listen, prepare a meal, run errands or drive you to an appointment – whatever you might need.
  • Seek support: A lot of men may have similar experiences with what you are going through. Openly or anonymously, you may use an online forum or in-person support group to discuss your thoughts through this process.
  • Be understanding: Your family and friends may be worried and tired, too. Put yourself in their shoes and consider seeking support together. It may help everyone cope during this time.

Want to talk to others who are going or have gone through what you’re experiencing? The Us TOO Prostate Cancer toll-free helpline or the PCRI toll-free helpline are great places to start that conversation.